If you ask me, I'm probably the calmest person in my family. I take things at a relaxing rate and I don't really get angry, unless it's about me.
I don't like quarrels because, first of all, it's noisy and you have to draw out a lot of inner energy just to yell your reasons out to another person. My family quarrels, mostly with these combinations: Mom and Dad, Dad and elder sister, Mom and elder sister & my younger sister and me.
For my sister and me, we quarrel over small and absurd things and it always start off with a disagreement.
Mom and elder sister is the deadliest combination because it always end up with a loud bang of a door. And it's so scary that I sometimes have to hide it out in my room and come out when the coast is clear. But yeah, as I became older, my ears and mind have been finely tuned to their quarrels and when they do, I simply ignore.
The funny thing about quarrels is that after a while, you guys don't know what you're yelling about because it had turned into a who-can-yell-louder competition.
Who wins? I don't know, it depends. Sometimes, my mom gets her way because, she's the mother and my elder sister has to respect her motherly decisions. Sometimes, my elder sister gets her way because she's speaks logically. And sometimes, nobody wins and everybody ends up hugging, crying and laughing.
It's stupid, I know, but it's family.
Friday, November 12, 2010
Past Parents
Sorry that I haven't been updating this blog. It's just that I'm busy with coping with life and its many struggles.
One annoying and distinct thing about my parents is that they were behaving like traditional Chinese parents. They are authoritative and basically my younger days was controlled by them. They believed in the saying "Spare the rod, spoil the child" so I get caned for my little mischiefs. But there was this time I was feeling a little more rebellious, or rather sick of all the caning, and I threw all my mother's canes out of the window.
As a kid, everything I wanted or needed was done by my parents. Everything has to go through my parents and I think this resulted me being shy when I became a teenager. While my other friends are adventurous and brave, I was pretty tamed. I then realized how much of my youth had I missed out.
I know they are caring and protective but sometimes I just wish that they could let me live my life my own way. Even if it means breaking a few rules or minor laws. Of course, I'd still listen to their words of wisdom and I won't be that stupid to attempt to slash anyone at a young age.
As I grew older during my teenage years, I try to distance myself away from my parents' over-protective and at a point in life, I no longer converse with my parents.
My mom became busy with work and whenever I have a conversation with her, it's so hard to click with her because she sometimes don't really understand what I'm saying and keeps on insisting on her old tradition rules and stuff. We don't live in the past anymore where black and white are so easily distinguishable. We're living in the 21st century where morals are grey and evil deeds are practically ignored because we might get mentally or physically maimed if we interfere
But that doesn't mean I don't uphold my values, morals and beliefs. I do, to an extent because certain situations calls for a different set of actions. I believe what we learn from young is all just theory, but when it comes to practicality, we follow our hearts and try to do the right thing. To further add on, my parents were pretty harsh on imparting the right values and morals to me and I kind of thank them for molding me into a caring young man, albeit loser-ish.
And my Dad, oh don't get me started on him. That guy don't even talks to me, mainly because he doesn't know how to communicate. I know he loves me because he is always getting things and food for me but I just wish that I could talk to him about matters. Like a guy-to-guy kind of talk. But I don't. We never really connected on a father-and-son basis and that, my lecturer, sucks.
So I always find myself divulging family secrets to friends and my friends became some sort of family to me because they listen. Though they may not be there all the time, they listen to me. Parents, on the other hand, don't listen but they are always there whenever I need them.
What a sad irony.
One annoying and distinct thing about my parents is that they were behaving like traditional Chinese parents. They are authoritative and basically my younger days was controlled by them. They believed in the saying "Spare the rod, spoil the child" so I get caned for my little mischiefs. But there was this time I was feeling a little more rebellious, or rather sick of all the caning, and I threw all my mother's canes out of the window.
As a kid, everything I wanted or needed was done by my parents. Everything has to go through my parents and I think this resulted me being shy when I became a teenager. While my other friends are adventurous and brave, I was pretty tamed. I then realized how much of my youth had I missed out.
I know they are caring and protective but sometimes I just wish that they could let me live my life my own way. Even if it means breaking a few rules or minor laws. Of course, I'd still listen to their words of wisdom and I won't be that stupid to attempt to slash anyone at a young age.
As I grew older during my teenage years, I try to distance myself away from my parents' over-protective and at a point in life, I no longer converse with my parents.
My mom became busy with work and whenever I have a conversation with her, it's so hard to click with her because she sometimes don't really understand what I'm saying and keeps on insisting on her old tradition rules and stuff. We don't live in the past anymore where black and white are so easily distinguishable. We're living in the 21st century where morals are grey and evil deeds are practically ignored because we might get mentally or physically maimed if we interfere
But that doesn't mean I don't uphold my values, morals and beliefs. I do, to an extent because certain situations calls for a different set of actions. I believe what we learn from young is all just theory, but when it comes to practicality, we follow our hearts and try to do the right thing. To further add on, my parents were pretty harsh on imparting the right values and morals to me and I kind of thank them for molding me into a caring young man, albeit loser-ish.
And my Dad, oh don't get me started on him. That guy don't even talks to me, mainly because he doesn't know how to communicate. I know he loves me because he is always getting things and food for me but I just wish that I could talk to him about matters. Like a guy-to-guy kind of talk. But I don't. We never really connected on a father-and-son basis and that, my lecturer, sucks.
So I always find myself divulging family secrets to friends and my friends became some sort of family to me because they listen. Though they may not be there all the time, they listen to me. Parents, on the other hand, don't listen but they are always there whenever I need them.
What a sad irony.
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Intro Intro
All right! Let's do this!
First an introduction of who I am. I'm Xing You and I'm currently studying in Media Studies and Management course. I'm 18 and I'm single. Has always been. I wear a pair of spectacles and my hair looks dorky. One look at me in a school canteen, you may think I'm just a regular kid like the rest.
Truth is, I'm not like the rest of them. I absolutely love movies. I love movies that entertain me with unconventional filming techniques and styles. My favourite films ranges works from the likes of mainstream directors David Fincher and Peter Jackson to stylistic ones like Jean Pierre Jeunet and Edgar Wright.
I also love music. Again, I don't stick to only one kind of music. Indie rock, 60's rock, Jazz, modern rock and pop-rock music are always in my playlist. They are even instrumental songs from my favourite film composer Michael Giacchino.
What I'm saying is that I'm a mixed bag of everything. Sometimes I can pull off surprises, sometimes I can be as cliche as TV shows go.
Onwards to my family. I have both my parents and two sisters; one younger, one older. Mom and dad are...I forgot how old they are but they're supposed to hit 60 in a couple of years' time. My elder sister is hitting the big three-oh in November and my younger sis is taking her O Levels' this Monday.
Mom works as a teacher in a secondary school I used to go to. Dad used to work as an engineer then he got retrenched because of the economy. My elder sister works at a prestigious bank of Barclays' (the bank that funds the English Premier League).
Like any other family, I think we're quite normal. We have our fair share of quarrels, arguments, moments of happiness and stuff. And I think that no matter where are you in life, you can always return back home to find peace with oneself. It's a place of recuperation, a form of breakaway from the stress of school, work and other things as well.
Friends come and go but family will always be there for you, I guess. Told ya I am cliche...
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